Scare Yourself (Just A Little Bit)
I've noticed for some time that I am often doing things that scare me. Some silly scares, some not-so-silly scares, but by doing them I believe it has helped me in so many ways. Do you do the same thing? It's incredibly satisfying when that hurdle just crumbles because you asked the questions out loud instead of letting them rattle around in your head, right?
Over the past few years I've pushed myself to ask questions and not apologise for doing so. I'm sure you've heard that old chestnut saying 'there is no such thing as a stupid question'? So why do we shy away from asking the things that pop up in our head? I find myself becoming less and less scared of asking for help or for feedback at work or in similar situations which means I can help my career a lot quicker than my former self would have. By asking the question sooner rather than later, I can commit information to memory and use it in the future, but had I not asked the question I would often find myself fretting about doing jobs wrong or getting into trouble for not knowing something I somehow thought I should know. Asking questions can seem annoying, but at the end of the day (especially at work) it's better to ask the question and the work go out correct than you think it's right and not ask at all.
As soon as I recognise myself shying away from a specific situation, I try and face it head on as soon as possible. By doing that I eliminate any of the 'what if' thoughts that are too close by and allow my possibilities to reveal themselves rather than be maybe's because I couldn't bring myself to ask the questions. The other added bonus of knowing the answers to the questions I want to ask (and do ask) is that I can then plan my next plan of action. I try and envision the next step (I'm a stickler for trying to think ahead) and if I don't have answers I need to envision properly I set out to get that information.
I wouldn't worry if it's too daunting to ask every question that pops up, I still struggle to ask some questions even today. It's a muscle I've been training for years, I woke up one day (cliche) and decided I was sick of trying to guess what was on people's minds. This led me to promise myself I would reduce my self-induced anxiety by getting information first hand. A game of whispers can be fun but when you need to think about your career or happiness in life, it's not so much fun.
I've concentrated a lot on questions so far, but experiences help too. Travelling alone (admittedly I've only travelled so far as Tenerife to meet my parents) is a great way to build that self confidence within reason. In no way would I suggest doing an around-the-world trip as your first challenge! Another example was moving cities. I've recently moved to Manchester and it's amazing and scary all at the same time. Small scares and big scares alike, it all makes me more confident and quite possibly points me towards what I really want in life.
How do you scare yourself?
Sorry for the delayed post, I've been away to see the parents and then had a spot of illness!